The land that once upon a time lived by Manu Shastra, a book of rules for the society, today has books on how to deal and cope with with Divorce. These are the changing times, You tubes are more productive than fillopian tubes and seminal vesicles.
There was the time when divorce was considered a stigma in the society and only the upper classin the society had the guts and gumption to break away from the marriages. There was also a time whendowry harrasment and in-laws wars were cited as reasons for seperation. But the scene today iscompletely different. More than the upper class the Middle and lower middle families taking to familycourts. Multiple incomes, over ambitious and career oriented youth, nuclear families and fast paced lifestyle among many other personality traits and ego wars seem to threaten the institution of marriage in India.
Apart from Diabetes, AIDS,and Cardiac problems, Divorce has also been added to the list of diseases threatening the Indian population. Our Minister for Health has a lot of work to do in the IT field.
Metros lead the pack with Delhi and Mumbai topping the list. Conservative Chennai and Kolkotta are not far behind in the race to family court. Punjab, Haryana among agricultural states inIndia has seen a sharp increase in divorce rates.
When we thought that literacy and education can bring about change in individuals and rewrite their fate, yes, theirfate was doomed. Kerala, a state with the highest literacy rate in India are also leading the bandwagon.
Which professionals top the divorcee list?
Dr S Nambi, former President of Indian Psychiatrists' Association, feels that software professionals are paying a heavy price for the hefty pay packets and lavish lifestyle that their jobs offer.
As IT field is a brain-taxing competitive job, the professionals get into emotional problems, which reflect on their marital life. Due to mental fatigue, many develop difficulties in sexual activities which also result in broken marriages, he says.
"Around the age of 28, they become hyper sensitive. By 35 they are mentally tired and worn out," remarks Nambi, whose clinic is thronged by several such couples for counselling.
Geetha Ramaseshan, an activist-advocate, says the IT revolution has changed the way in which the younger generation looks at the institution of marriage. Influenced by western culture, they perceive marriage only as a matter of convenience, she feels.
Mouse replaced spouse:
Computer jobs have wrecked bedrooms.Stress, pressure cooker job and fast paced lifestyle has turned software professionals asexual.Lack of libido and impotence among IT professionalis also stated as one of the main reasons for divorce by women. Has Vastsyayana got any fix for this?
The west has not only outsourced the business process but also their lifestyle and problems.Nasscom,an industry body that boasts about Indian IT exports must also look at whatadd ons come with the dirty dollar. When the econimic engine in India started the divorce engine also got started.
What is the scene in Chennai?
Have you heard about Chennai being the diabetes capital of India. 16% of adults areblessed with diabetes and it has more Diabetics than in New York city? Well just wait, Chennai has more reasons to feel proud.
The Chennai city and its suburbs are home to over two lakh IT professionals and BPO employees.
The total number of divorce cases filed in the city last year was about 3,000. However, the 3,000-mark has been crossed this year by the end of June itself, she adds.
40% of the divroce cases filed in Chennai are by professionals in the IT/ITES sector.
There is a sharp increase in women who file for divorce.
75% of divorce cases are filed byyouth in the 25-35 age group.
Who is cashing in on the divorces?
As always it is the market demand that drives innovation.
Certainly family counsellors are busy patching up crumbling marriages, and lawyers are busy running up and down the steps of court.
The internet millionaires are again winning sweepstakes with second innings portals for divorcees,widowers and widows.
Astrologers in street corners have come up with special service offerings for second marriagehoroscopes.
Music companies had sucessfully cashed in marketing music for heart, diabetes, expectingmothers will soon cash in on impotence "Music for the divorced".
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good articles but do you need that gruesome picture to emphasize mouse replacing spouse? poor mice have to suffer for your blog
ReplyDeletedivorce per se is not bad except when couples divorce for frivolous reasons. Staying in a bad marriage where it involves physical and mental abuse is not good.
Sometimes words dont suffice and pictures convey the seriousness of the issue.
ReplyDeleteAppreciate for being an animal lover.
Divorce is not bad in some cases but it seems like a computer virus creating a pandemonium in our lives.
Divorce is mental torture but many couples dont have the freedom to divorce but stay together as family doesnt allow them to go through it.
ReplyDeletesometimes even parents contribute to it by forcing children to be what they dont want to be. i wish people realize sooner before everything is too late.